People these days have this notion that being single is lonely, boring, and desolate. Do I agree??? For all of my living years in this world, I’ve never had a boyfriend. It’s not a conscious choice of circumstance, but that is just the deck of cards I was/am dealt with in life currently. That said, am I lonely, bored, and desolate? Nope, definitely not.
I believe that happiness is a choice and that one’s civil status and/or preference has nothing to do with it. To each his own, as they say. In these crazy times, there’s always something that you can do such that there’s no room for boredom or in dwelling on your singleness. There are times that I wish I could extend my day; 24 hours a day is just not enough — it’s that crazy, I know. Try dwelling on adulting, instead — it’s tough!
A coined term or label or slang for those women, myself included, who are in this category, is NBSB – for No Boyfriend Since Birth. Folks abound, knowing you’re NBSB, almost always as if right on cue, will have different comments and opinions flying at you. Comments such as “you’re too picky!”, “you’re so career oriented”, “you’re not actively looking”, “you’re looking from all the wrong places”, “you’re not going out often and meeting new people”, “you need to have a new circle of friends”, “you’re not praying for him”, “you weren’t specific in your prayers”, “you’re too strict, intimidating”, blah blah blah!
To be honest, these comments don’t annoy me much, as I can always just tune them out or smile or have a sarcastic response. It all depends on the person who said such remarks. To a point that these don’t bother or pressure me at all since I’m contented with my life right now; and I feel that I just don’t have the time to take care of someone or build a relationship, and be responsible, as I have a crazy adulting life as it is.
The only time I feel pressured and all these gets to my head is during the singles’ games in weddings. Maybe because with the comments, I know how to deflect, tune them out, and what/how to react, while the singles’ games in weddings, you have no choice but to be put on the spot (stage and center) for other people to see and judge. Oh society! Don’t take me wrong, I love games! It brings out the competitive spirit in me and hones my strategic skills as well. However, this is the only game that I so dread, as in DREAD! During this time, I always wish that if only I have and I’m with someone! Very loser-ish feels eh! Whatever! The hell I care! I hate to be put on the spot, especially for this reason. 😛 My cousin’s wedding is coming up in 2 days, can you guys help me in getting away from joining this game? Pretty, please? 🙂
Will I continue to be an NBSB up until I die? Will I die alone? Will I ever meet that one man, God has destined for me? Do I have to start entertaining thoughts of dying an old maid, spinster? Should I be embracing single blessedness then? All thought provoking questions I need to ask myself and come to terms with, sooner or later. For now, I’ll just continue to enjoy being awesome, free, and seizing the day even though single.
Hey, Girl! The world doesn’t stop just because you’re single. And that being single is lonely, boring and desolate, are just mere misconceptions. You’re in-charge of your life, civil status and/or preference included. We have to make peace with all of these and learn to know and love ourselves more. Also, bear in mind that our love stories are yet to be completed. Who knows that special someone will just appear; by then we’re ready to love and embrace him into our crazy life.
SingleBakedMiss by KiaraC 